"You made a big mistake"
- Bernadette
- May 29
- 2 min read
Updated: Jun 25

Last night, I was having a drink with a friend who runs transformation programs at a government department. The topic turned to salespeople (he politely tried to hide his contempt) and he told me a story: He’d reached out to a well-known tier 1 software vendor, wanting to transform a business process with data.
He didn’t hear back. Even after following up weeks later, nothing.
I’ll probably never hear the other side; whether they wrongly qualified him out as a NI/NA (No Influence / No Authority) or whether it was jotted down on a Post-it note and forgotten. Hanlon’s Razor (never attribute to malice what can be explained by incompetence) always deserves a hearing.
But it troubles me. We as vendors spend so much money and energy generating leads: BDRs, ads, outreach. And yet, when a client finally raises their hand, we don’t call them back?
I’ve seen many possible explanations for this close up. A client wants a price, but internally it triggers endless debate: different managers with big egos have different views on the “best approach.” Someone offshore needs to be consulted. Maybe a partner should be engaged? A meeting is booked, postponed, rebooked. Weeks pass.
The client is calling back, pleading: “Please, I just want a quote so we can get on with this.”
The rep is frozen with embarrassment, AVOIDING the client's calls...
Meanwhile, there are startups who’d raffle their organs just to get a meeting!
We spend so much energy strategising and forecasting. That’s fine, but let’s not forget the fundamentals:
Spend as much time as possible in front of customers
Listen more than you talk
Ask questions
Don’t be an asshole
Be easy to deal with
Follow up (and then follow up again) - even if it’s a no.
Provide value in every interaction - something real, not fluff.
Be honest about what you don’t know
Respect the customer’s time and process
Own the next step - always
What have I missed?
It’s not yet clear whether my friend will get to have his Pretty Woman moment - calling the vendor back to gleefully tell them that he has spent millions with a hungry startup.
But I hope I get to hear about it!
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